As I told you in my last journal, I've been in Japan for half a year, living with a hostfamily. Now the problem was that I don't speak that much Japanese, and while it was enough to get trough the classes at university and to handle most problems of every-day life, there were moments when I was just totally lost. In such moments, rather than atmitting that I didn't understand a word they told me, I just adopted the habbit of smiling and nodding when it seemed appropriate, hoping that they didn't expect me to say anything relevant in return. Most of the other German students handled such situations pretty much the same way. Which had it's downsides.
A friend of mine, for example, lived with a charming older couple that went to hiking-tours every weekend. She usually joined them, unless we had something else planned. So one day her hostmother said something with my name in it and my friend didn't understand, but it didn't seem very importand so she just smiled and nodded. A few days later she and I went to Takarazuka, went to the theater, and when we had dinner in a restaurant afterwards, she said: "I hope you don't have any plans for this weekend. I think I accidentially invited you for a hiking-tour tomorrow."
Another day we went to Teramachi to go shopping for books and were spotted by a woman on a bicycle. The woman stopped, waited untill we were close enough and then started a conversation. A very one-sided one I have to admit. It began with the usual "Where do you come from?" "What are you doing here?" "Oh, your Japanese is really good, where did you learn it?" (Really, you don't have to understand such questions, only have the answers memorized, because it's always the same. Ever. Single. Time.) After that, I was lost. Didn't understand a single word - to this day I have no idea what she was talking about, but I got the distinct feeling, then, that she wanted us to join a cult. But she didn't seem inclined to stop anytime soon and it seemed inpolite to interrupt, so I just looked interested and concentrated, nodded every once in a while and said "Oh, really?" and "Is that so?" whenever it seemed to make sense. From time to time I glanced at my friend and was quite frustrated to see that she actually seemed to understand everything.
After a while the woman drove off and when she was gone I admitted to my friend: "You know, it's depressing how bad my Japanese is: I didn't understand a single word, but whenever I looked at you, you seemed to understand everything just fine."
And she answered: "Funny. During the conversaton I ocassionally looked at you, and I was thinking exactly the same."